I dont know what to do anymore..... My life sucks.
First off let me say that im currently a 17 year old male, I live with my mother and stepfather(who is actually my uncle) ill come back to that in a minute. Anyways we are being evacuted come next week, third time this FUCKING YEAR!!! The reason for this is both my mother and step father/uncle are alcoholics. Every pay check my, " STEP DAD", gets they both go straight to the bar that same day. They drink all night long, which eventually ends with my mom getting into a fight with my step dad and getting her ass beat. She still has bruises from the last time.
My Step Father is a ex con who is in turn my uncle from my dads side. So my mother left my dad for my uncle. Sounds pretty white trashy dont it? Anyways i have moved from four different high schools in the last three years. Theres a reason for this, at my original school i was beaten to a pulp by four of my class mates on the football team. Look it up its true. I had a broomstick snapped over my side and fractured three of my ribs. But thats just were my problems start after being in the hospital for three weeks i comeback and the school says i received the injurys from football!!! i know right? Then i rumor gets started that i was sadomized by the broomstick. That leads to me fighting a lot more and being kicked out. Which before i was scared of fighting but i was so angry and deppressed i dont give a shit. So i move to another school. Same story, everbody heres the rumor from my old school more fighting on my behalf. Same feelings as beforem,I go to another high school same thing eventually. I try to distract myself with sports but im to angry all the time. I cry alot before i go to sleep at night. I eventually give up on my grades and sports and I gain 30 pounds. I start partying, drinking ,and fighting. I cant stand to look at myself anymore. I think about my life alot now and think if i have had all this shit happen already what the fuck is going to happen later on? Im so scared of what the future holds for me, im lost on what to do. I wrote this here hoping it would help me vent some of my feeling but it just has made me sad. my life sucks. |
I have almost the exact same story it's scary. I was the victim and threw up blood quite often.
But adversity builds character. I threw myself into 3 jobs to keep myself busy.. I then bought my own business.
Fight back with intelligence. You can be strong.
Just try.
You can do WHATEVER you put your mind to.
Chin up
You are self medicating for a deeper problem. Drugs is your solution to a problem, not the problem itself. Whatever pain you are feeling is causing physical symptoms that you are soothing with your poison of choice. That is why it's so unbearable to be off it.
Know that it's not you. Your addiction is not you. If you are afflicted with cancer, would you call yours a bad person?
Addiction is a disease. Will power has nothing to do with it. Look up the Disease Model of Addiction. Know that it's not you, know that it's an genetic affliction that millions suffer from. Alcohol, sex, gambling, drugs, love, stealing -- all the same illness, just different manifestations. (like different type of cancers -- breast, lung, liver, etc...)
So the important question, What is your next action? By taking action, you will no longer feel like a helpless victim, you will be focusing on the solution, not the problem, focusing on hope, not despair, life, not death.
The next action is to get help. You can not do it alone. If you are afflicted with cancer or any other disease, would you say "I have to do this alone!" Or would you goto a doctor, a professional that has trained all his life to deal with this type of illness. Addiction specialist are everywhere. However, I understand that going to a professional may be way too scary as the first step. That is understandable.
So what is the right first step? Please read on. Please, take this next action. Look up a Alcoholics Anonymous meeting and go!!! It doesn't matter what drug you are addicted to, just go -- it's all the same. I know your immediate knee jerk reaction -- Hell no! But just think about this -- huge rock stars that you love go to AA, big movie stars that we wish we could be, go to AA, the world's richest, most powerful people go to AA, NBA, NFL, NASCAR pros go to AA. I could tell you who, but then I would be violating their anonymity. I'll let you in on a secret though -- during a lot of the Oscar and sports award speeches, you will see big stars thank his or her "fellows" out there -- they mean their fellows in AA. So my point -- it's not for losers -- it's for people who want the best out of life!
Just go. No one has to know about it. Just show up, sit in the back and hide if you need to, and listen. Just go. It doesn't matter what you are addicted to, just go.
You will be amazed. Everyone in that room knows EXACTLY how you feel because they feel the same thing. hey speak the same language, they know the same shame, the same self loathing, the same guilt. They know the struggle.
It will not end unless you get to a AA meeting. Those people there are not losers, they are good people at heart just like you. You will not be stooping, you will be finding people just like you with one objective -- HELP YOURSELF BY HELPING EACH OTHER.
Where else in this world can you find a place where the main goal is to be supportive, understanding, non judgmental, loving?
I will bet you $10,000 worth of your favorite poison that if you sit through one meeting, not even saying anything, just hiding in the back row, you will feel a relief that you've never imagined. Just by being in that room.
Do it now. Now. Please GOOGLE: "Alcocholoics Anonymous"
Don't think, your addiction will talk you out of it (that lying bastard that is ruining your life and wants you dead-- and you know it). If you don't try this proven solution, what is your plan B? What you have been doing? How is it going? Is it working? It never will and you know it. And here is the thing YOU DONT HAVE TO STOP in order to goto a meeting. Keep getting high off our poison, that's fine, just goto a meeting. Go get high after the meeting, thats fine. Just go and listen.
Do it now. GOOGLE: "Alcoholics Anonymous"
Go today. Tonight. They are everywhere. Do it now. If you want to love yourself again. Do it now, if you want a chance to live the life of your dreams.
Don't think. Don't listen to that crafty lair in your head. Just do it.
Here it is again. GOOGLE: "Alcoholics Anonymous"
When you go, you will have to say that you are an "alcoholic" if you decide to introduce yourself (you don't have to) -- but everyone there knows "alcoholic" is code for "any kind of addiction." After you get settled into things, you can goto meetings that are specific to your brand of addiction.
I was 100X worse than you. I have been happy and clean for EIGHT YEARS. I don't want drugs or drink because it just plain feels better! Can you imagine that? I couldn't. But its true. If someone like me can do it, and actually enjoy life, then I have zero doubt that you can.
You are worth it.
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