I am a sole support parent, 2 years ago I letr a long term boyfriend move in with me and my daughter. He said he loved her and we were a family and all that crap I secretly wanted to hear. And now he has left me for another women who is amazing looking and has no kids and if sounds like they have so much fun together. He hasn;t seen my daughter, in months adn she is crushed she is five. It's like everything I worked for over 5 years of being cheated on and lied to and after a couple months they live together and are having a kid. I just hate my life. I feel imprisoned by own bad decisions, I want to die and I just hate myself for never being enough. I fail at everything and I hate my life.
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Have the two of you really been interested in each other and spent enough time with and attention to each other? Or is your life maybe centered around your child and you just wanted someone to support you? Did you love him because you needed him or did you need him because you loved him? And what about him? Did you see proof that he loves and cares about you or did you just see what you wanted to see? Did you and he really fit together and want the same things in life? Or did you rather have a temporary agreement to give each other what you needed, e.g. someone to support you with your everyday tasks, while he got whatever a guy just needs?
I think mentioning that the new girlfriend is looking good is not relevant here at all. It may have made you feel better if he ended up with an ugly one, but it wouldn't make any difference in the fact that you have been left behind and certainly not made any difference for your daughter who suffers. It is simple to blame others as being superficial, as some of the commenters do, but in my opinion that is in all of us. Why would it otherwise be important to mention that the new one is good looking and has no child? Does that matter? Maybe there are other reasons why he left. Maybe it is better that way, because you will encounter someone who suits you better. What about a sole support father?
Don't feel bad. these things happen in life and make us grow bigger and better. You will find someone if you accept to let go. Don't try to hold on to what you love. Accept that everything in life is temporary and that only the moment counts. Cherish the time you had spent with you Ex-boyfriend. Encounter him with understanding and love, tell him the truth without manipulating, e.g. that your daugther misses him. Just try to be a human being, but before all of that, learn to love yourself. Love the imperfections of your life, learn to love all the failures and bad decisions. Look forward to make more bad decisions and mistakes, because they are inevitable, since you never know better than after it happened.
You are a wonderful human being and you value is not depending on how many people are around you. Your value is depending on how you feel inside and only you can influence and control that in the long run. Noone else.
I wish you a good life and that fate sends you the right one
Regards
Ive always been a fighter... and fought back ...pushed my way through lifes ups and downs...church should be a haven help protection ...when its not then what else is there in life...Ive tried it all drugs alcohal...religion...its all screwed up...Stop the world I want to get OFFF
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