Im 26yrs old I have a girlfriend of 7yrs who hates my guts and we have a beautiful 4.5month old son. Though ive changed before he was born I fucked my life up by being addicted to heroin for ten years(Im clean for 1.5yrs. now) and being in and out of jail alot of the time. Ive grown up since but that isnt the issue. Things were going good for a while this last year or so I had a good job I liked, was doing everything right with my parole, me and her loved each other and Feb. 1st we had the most beautiful baby boy in the world. Her and I have had a rocky relationship in the past but we were doing good since I cleaned up. But ever since she had the baby more and more every day she tells me what a worthless peice of shit i am, how I do nothing for the family, how I dont care about my family, and other untrue, unfair bullshit. It started out as little disputes here and there and is now to the point that we cant be together anymore, much less do we still sleep in the same bed or show each other any kind of warmth or affection. Ive tried to make it work but she cant stop arguing long enough to try. on top of all that about 2mos. ago I all of a sudden got bouts of barely being able to breath for days at a time due to a type of asthma brought on by the BP oil spill(I live right on the gulf coast), Which caused me to lose my job a few days ago, and when my parole officer finds out im unemployed shell probably take me away from my son for the next 5 years or so, which would kill me as hes my reason for living. I dont know what to do anymore. Im not looking for a shoulder to cry on I just really need some advice. Anyone who wants to tell me that im a drug addict loser or that im whining dont bother, fuck you in advance, you know your only tough on the internet anyway. Thank you to anyone with some good feedback.
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Maybe if you each took some time away from each other to calm down and work on yourselves individually before going back things might get better. 7 years is a long time, and you are young (so am I, I'm 24) so maybe it's just time to grow a little bit without being in each other's faces all day every day. And this is coming from someone who just lost a 4 1/2 year relationship and wishes she could have it back everyday.
Also, maybe you can talk to your PO about the job loss. I'm sure they would rather hear it from you than find out any other way. You didn't cause the oil spill or choose to get the asthma. I would think that they would be more lenient due to the reason you lost your job.
Stay strong, your worth it!
1. Go to counseling with your wife and try to save the relationship
2. Get a job, then divorce the wife and file for custody of your son.
3. Stay there and be miserable.
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