Today one of my best friends texted me and told me that he was going on a date with this girl. I have loved this girl for years, but never been able to venture past this and get out more than a sentence from her. I know I'm really creepy and all. I planned things specifically that she would come to hoping that we would talk and possibly become friends. I got my license because I thought that if we ever got together I'd look like a loser if I didn't have a car. I'd come up with excuses to talk to her family, who I've come to know well. I'd fall asleep thinking of ways to bump into her or talk to her. I tried to get into lucid dreaming so I could get coffee with her while I slept. I probably created a person who doesn't exist in my mind. I'd think I was over her only to fall for her again.
Just causally texting my friend today to get him to go to a party I was hosting, and since I knew he was friends with this girl, suggesting that he invite her to because she "seems nice". He then tells me that he's going on a date with her on saturday, because they really click.
I've been sobbing my eyes out for two hours now. I don't even know what to do. I know there's other girls out there, but she's the only one I've ever even been sexually attracted too. It sounds so stupid and shallow, and it is, it shouldn't be making me this upset. Yet I'm sitting here typing about how I'd go through hell for this girl I barely know, and I've basically based my life around her. | |
My advice is to concentrate on your school and look forward to something coming up in the future. Keep doing this and eventually you'll find you're over her.
p.s it's only a date anyway, she might not like him. If this happens then you need to tell her how you feel!
You can get strength from trusting God to help you. He does answer prayer. If you stop allowing yourself to obsess over this girl and try to keep busy, in time you will find the pain receding to the point that you can live with it without undue suffering. I can promise this. I had a broken heart over a failed marriage. You will get well. It helps enormously to find someone else to go out with. You'll fall in love again.
I used to be obsessed with a girl when I was in high school too. Nothing every happened with her, she went out with some one else. Know what I did? I got over it, found another girl that I liked and ended up going out with her.
There are tons of women out there. Dont obsess over one fucking girl you never went out with. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Fuck!
I used to be fixated on a chick when I was young, I used to think about her all the time, however I would always get too nervous to talk to her. Eventually after a long time I finally got to know her a little bit, and she wasnt really the same chick I envisioned her to be. She wasnt really a decent person. I realized obsessed over her for nothing.
When you get older and you start dating more & more. You will realize that a lot of women are not what they seem to be at all. I learned that from experience. You will too if you ever get over your fears of talking to girls, it will come with maturity and age. Its nothing to be afraid of. If a chick rejects you, move on to the next one. Eventually you will get one that likes you back, then you get into a relationship, and some day she might fuck you over, or cheat on you, etc. Then its back to square one again. Thats reality.
Secondly, there is no way she could be that much more exceptional than anybody else. Thirdly, if she was so great, maybe you should have tried a little harder, did you expect things to just turn out? Life doesnt work that way. In addition to that, dont give so much attention to a relationship! Particularly when it doesnt already even exist! They normally dont end well, people end up unhappy.
Finally, your problem is insignificant compared to my own and the majority on this website, so my advice is this, find someone else, or just get some casual sex where you can. You will have people who call this insensitive or not really living or blah blah blah rubbish, but truth be told,
no one in relationships dont have regrets, i bet their over it so much sooner than you think. (Apologies for the long reply, ive been drinking and once i got started i sorta had to make the point, i wish you well though)
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