I'm 22.
I've never had a girlfriend, I'm a virgin, I don't have friends. At least not friends I can call up to go hang out with and do stuff. To top it off I am going bald at 22.
This sucks and it just makes me feel horrible, it brings my self esteem down even more.
I don't know what to do. I try and accept that being alone for life is okay. But idk.
Doesn't help that I was just recently scammed from some money. I have to pay for school now by saving up my checks.
I'm shy, so that doesn't help with anything.
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Secondly I wouldn't worry about your appearance, human beings are such complex creatures capable of incredible feats of art and science that anyone who judges another based on a lack of hair simply shows how shallow they are. In short someone who judges another based on physical characteristics is prejudice, shallow, pathetic and generally not worth being with.
I'm sorry to hear about you being scammed, something like that happened to me once. I think the only solace you can take from something like that is to learn from it and not let it happen again.
It is tough trying to build up self-esteem, I find keeping physically active helps. I've started trying to get fit recently and noticed myself becoming more naturally confident, I think there is some basic link between physical prowess and self esteem. If possible try joining a gym or just going for a jog occasionally, if nothing else that will help meet a potential partner or at least others to talk to.
This may sound awfully cliché but just remember how amazing you are as an individual; The odds of you reaching the egg were 1/300million give or take and then the odds of you being who you are on this planet are 1/7billion. So the odds of you being who you are at this point in time was over 2 quadrillion (that's a very big number). Don't squander that chance or your time here, you've got well over 50 years left to find something to live for.
Try joining some social clubs / gym / part time college courses, try and start conversations with strangers who look lonely, try and find some hobby to occupy yourself with to take your mind off other things, and try and find happiness in small things. Give yourself goals like getting fitter or learning an instrument or a language, little things will improve yourself as a person and actually make you more interesting, as well as increasing your self-esteem and will make you seem more attractive.
The biggest crime in this life is when someone steps back and decides to do nothing, only you can decide your actions and thus only you can find things to be happy about.
If you need to talk I'm at feint_left@hotmail.com
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