Hi I am 37yrs old I spend every night on my own I have not had a single visitor to my house in over two years now I spend every weekend alone I have no one to talk to from 3pm on Friday to 7am on Monday it's been like this for over 3 yrs now I spend every Christmas day & birthday on my own not even a card nor a phone call I cant talk to people because I have nothing to talk about I have never been invited to a birthday party nor even a BBQ I am not a bad person I always help people when. Can I say my prayers every night but nothing good ever happens I don't know what to do any more I am just wasting my life away I am the true meaning of a loser |
I myself have confidence issues and feel lonely on occasion so here is some stuff i found to help i hope it helps you too.
1. A smile is a great start, just smile at some folk - people are much likely to approach you and be more willing to be approached.
2. you said you have nothing to talk about - so lets turn this on its head. People love to talk about themselves - ask them so questions - just show an interest. im sure you will find a common interest.
3. Why dont you start by looking into join some clubs or evening classes. Anything that puts you in a social situation - something that you enjoy
4. I found engaging in these types of sites does not actual help with these feelings.
5. Do you exercise- seriously this will help how you feel, its almost impossible to feel bad/lonely with endorphins rushing around your system.
6. Have you tried looking into CBT - there are online sources to help you notice unhelpful thinking or behaviour patterns - it is hard but give it go
7. try setting two goals a day - something that combats loneliness
remember what we practice we become
you want to be happy, you need to start doing stuff
good luck
Instead of complaining, enjoy the peace when you are alone.
got to get the "fuck it" attitude or you will die before your time.
The Psalmist cried out, "No man cares for my soul." [Psalm 142:4]. He was experiencing the loneliness of isolation from other people, and the feeling that those around him were pursuing their own interests rather than showing genuine concern for his soul.
People are often pursuing their own interests and desires, but the lesson we must learn is that people are not our source. In the midst of your isolation, you can turn to Christ and discover that His love truly does satisfy. Jesus understands loneliness and rejection. He experienced isolation from people. Because he understands, he is able to bring acceptance and love.
Christ brings you love, acceptance, and intimate communion with the God of love. With Christ, you are not alone. He conquers your loneliness by coming to dwell within you. Loneliness is removed by the presence of the indwelling Christ.
There is precious communion with Christ, when a lonely person discovers that the love of Christ is real and satisfying. There is an old saying, "Blessed are the homesick, for they shall come home." Loneliness and isolation are signs of homesickness, which can only be healed by coming home to Christ.
Christ makes us whole. His love makes us whole, and out of the overflow of Christ's love within us we can then show love and compassion for those around us. Out of the overflow of His love and acceptance for you, which heals your loneliness, you can show love and caring towards those around you.
He knocks at the door of your heart; the presence of Christ is real. But He must be invited into your heart, into the center of your being.
Receive Him; receive His cleansing and forgiveness and love. Allow Him to have the control of your life in a genuine surrender, and His loving presence will fill you, removing loneliness and unrest. May the peace of Christ fill you now!
A Prayer of Surrender:
Dear Lord Jesus, please fill me with your love, and wash away all my sins. I surrender my heart and life to you. I ask you to receive me and make me whole.
Thank you for dying on the cross for my sins, to cleanse me and forgive me. Thank you for dying on the cross for me, to make me a child of God. I turn away from all my sins, with all my heart.
I receive you, Lord Jesus, as the Lord and Savior of my life. I ask you to rule in my heart and life from now on. I ask you to fill me with your loving presence, and guard me with your divine protection.
I ask you to strengthen me and help me, to live for you from now on. I ask you to fill me with love so that I can love other people with a pure love. Fill me with love so that I can love you with all of my heart. Amen.
Im 47, female and childless. I have quite a large family but for some reason they have very little to do with me. I have four sisters and they only contact me, by text when they want something from me.I maware they have busy lives but the complete lack of contact from them is hurtful. If I try to ring them for a chat they dont have time and yet all their kids are fully grown and two of them are stay at home wives.
I know, in my heart that they love me but the lack of contact makes me feel as if they dont!!!!
Like you my weekend are empty.I love cycling but I feel a bit scared to go out alone as its not a very safe area that I live in.
It weird that inside I know Im a good kind person as Ive taken care of sick relatives up to death and held their hands as they died. Its just that as my lonliness increases my self worth decreases and Im starting to feel like a non person.I find it so sad that you spend special days alone. Do you have any family at all? You dont say anything about them.Would you like to email me? ziggysue@fsmail.net. My name is Susan and I live in the UK.
I have two cats and they are my best friends. In the past I have been suicidal over my lonliness but I have fought against it. Now I know I wont ever do that.
My story is too long to tell as Ive been through divorce, abuse, almost losing my home due to my partners financial problems but Ive come through and Id like to help you.
I want you to know that you are not a loser. I think your situation is very sad and I feel a bit ashamed of myself as your situation seems so much lonlier than mine.
Many people are sad and lonely and have dreadful stories to tell.Much worse than mine or yours but that doesnt always help us does it?
I often feel guilty for feeling sad as i think others have it so much worse!!!! So then i have another negative emotion to deal with!!!!! Guilt!!!!
If you dont want to email me directly please reply on here and tell me more about your family, job, where you live etc. Id like to be your friend and send you kind wishes every day, not just for special occasions.
Throughout my very down times I found that by reaching out to someone else in trouble I felt my life did have some meaning to it.
Its not an easy life but its the only one I have and anyway, Ziggy and Lucky, my two cats think Im the bees knees.
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