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I am married to a freaking bitch.

Posted by anonymous at May 7, 2010
Tags: 2010 May  Relationship

I am 40 years old. I have my ups and downs in life. My sad story starts after my parents get divorced. I am about twenty five years old at the time. I don't know why this has affected me but it has. I never have been an over achiever but I am smart enough to always get by. I got married at the age of 28 years old. I was happy so I thought. She was very emotional detached person. She also seems to have to be right in any argument. She always puts me down especially in front of others. She like to have an audience. I was OK with this. I put up with it for the first 13 years of our marriage. She decided one day she need a friend. She met a woman and her name is Jen. They become very close sometime too close. I wonder is there is something more than friendship. I suspect more but she denies it. I have not cheated on her and She so happy now with her new friend. Me and her rarely talk. I come home from work and she and I will stay in separated rooms. She spend most of her time texting Jen. If she not texting she is one the facebook pages leaving comments to Jen. I want to get out of this broken marriage. The only problem is we have adopted a little girl together. I love Abby. She is now five years old. I don't want her to have to suffer from what I call post divorce syndrome. I have to mention Amy my wife goes out a lot with Jen. Mostly on the weekends to bars and sometime out of town for the entire weekend. I don't really know what to do except i want out. I however don't want to hurt Abby. My life sucks and I wish sometime I am dead. I wouldn't feel this sadness and pain and misery.


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By anonymous at 09,May,10 10:58

what the hell is wrong with the idiot who gave you that advice??? first of all. seek counseling, if she refuses, go to a lawyer or hire a detective.see where and what she does. adopted or blood. a child of divorce has it rough. If either of these things doesnt work. ask the lawyer what they think is the best possible answer for you or call suicide hotline cuz i dont think killing yourself or wishing you were dead is what you want since you love this little girl so much as you say you do! how would she feel if she found out you killed herself. she might think when she is older it had something to do with her as most families of suicide victims often do. do whatever it takes to reconcile this broken family, call oprah, dr. phil, WHOEVER..if no success, seek help elsewhere..if u cant afford it..call the local courthouse and ask for some resources on help with your situation. never give up when there is a child involved!! good luck, oh and btw, i dont know your faith but you can also consult a priest, pastor or whomever for free help as well. even if your not of any faith, they can still help.


By anonymous at 09,May,10 18:07

adopt more kids

divorce her ass

let her be the legal guardian of 10-20 kids

profit


By anonymous at 09,May,10 22:21

When you get out of your broken marriage it may take a while but it will get better. Your daughter can tell if you aren't happy and it will be better for her in the long run. Just tell yourself
'this too shall pass"


By anonymous at 10,May,10 00:07

its better if you get divorced cause then Abby has a better and more caring mother


By anonymous at 10,May,10 01:48

im divorce, was married for 12 years, i was un happy all those 12 years but i didnt want to divorce because i didnt want to break my family and i stay for the kids, i was going crazy didnt want to weak up every morning, living with the guy i was married was like living with the enemy, i finally decide divorce him because i wanted to be happy and teach my kids what is love, and i know i was not going to teach them that living with the guys i was married since i was not even able to be infront of him, everything about him made me upset, mad, sad, depress, so i got divorce he wanted to take kids from me i have three kids one girl and two boys, i had suffer so much for these and my kids more that me i belive, and now i have a boyfriend and as i right now i starting to fell love dose not exist and happines .... i dont know, my boys are every week with me but my dauther dosent want to see me, the father convince her i was a evil mom and i diserve nothing, boys stil with me, but to tell you the trut, i dont know what to think, it seems to me that no matter how hard i try nothing gets ever fix, i beeing divorce for one year, separated for 4 years and my relationship with my boyfrien i will say is cold and sad, i do not feel like before and im sad about it, i wonder if it was worthed the divorce because as a right now, these is very similar i how i felt when i decide to get divroce, but well damage is done, kids had suffer for 4 years, i had no money and im as unhappy as i was when i divorce, so as a right know, have not advice for you just sad as you are......
By anonymous at 12,Jan,12 10:13

you sound like you are a filipina.


By anonymous at 02,Nov,10 02:47

Dude, I am in the same boat. To be honest...get over it. Thats life its sucks. Be a dad, have a few beers, watch football, relax, and when your wife needs your help with something tell her to call Jen.
By anonymous at 10,Dec,10 15:04

The best advice posted here:

"Dude, I am in the same boat. To be honest...get over it. Thats life its sucks. Be a dad, have a few beers, watch football, relax, and when your wife needs your help with something tell her to call Jen."

Its not mine, but I just had to give kudos to this one.
By anonymous at 05,Jan,12 09:43

and invite your friends over when she's out/away with Jen. This could be a pretty awesome situation! If you don't have friends maybe that is a bigger problem.
By anonymous at 23,Oct,12 23:12 Fold Up

I had to reply to this reply cuz it made me laugh. Without a doubt, this is the best advice. Men invented sports, tv, and beer for a reason. Continue to be a great father and have a "cold one". Maybe your wife is into chicks who knows. Don't think to hard about it and chill the f#ck out. I don't understand why men get married but my two kids are worth it.
By anonymous at 18,Feb,14 20:48

You are an egocentric moron without an ounce of sympathy...you have got to be late 20's early 30's
By anonymous at 02,Apr,13 10:19 Fold Up

awesome advice


By anonymous at 03,Nov,10 17:12

i agree that you should divorce, first try to talk things over with Amy and her friend Jen. if that doesnt not help than i do suggest separating. it will be better for all four of you in the long run!!


By anonymous at 19,Nov,10 18:36

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By anonymous at 07,Jan,11 13:22

Duzint anywun no how too spel anymor/


By anonymous at 18,Feb,11 01:49

Seek god


By anonymous at 08,May,11 16:54

Fucking-a! sounds kinda like me!


By anonymous at 10,Sep,11 10:25

It's time for you to get out of this situation. Your little girl will adapt and eventually be better off. I'm sorry you found yourself in these cirmcumstances, but you are still young and you will find somebody else. Best of luck to you.


By anonymous at 10,Oct,11 05:25

try to root jen that will pis her of


By anonymous at 07,Dec,11 12:43

Everybody so quick to divorce these days. Marriage is a commitment and it takes guts and grit to keep it together. Try talking to her, seriously, about what is bothering you, even if she gets angry. Let her know that it's not ok for her to be out with friends when you need her at home. She's your wife dude, make the best of it.


By anonymous at 23,Dec,11 15:11

Look on the plus side, she gives you freedom. why not spend as much time as possible with Amy and try to get a girlfriend on the side...


By at 27,Mar,12 12:25

Wow. My first reaction was to say "go, you!" and gntcratulaoe you taking control of a process that I sense you felt out of control of. My second reaction is that divorce, no matter how necessary, is not something to celebrate. So here we are, my third reaction. Nah - I think you do deserve to be gntcratulaoed. You are looking out for yourself, taking charge. Anyway, congratulating isn't the same as celebrating. Related, but not the same. 2nd cousins, tops.Tears do seem appropriate, but hopefully not too many.Take good care.


By anonymous at 16,Apr,12 13:08

First of all, no one can tell you what to do. Ultimately the decision is your responsibility to make. Yes, marriage is a commitment which should be honored. all resources should be exhausted before seeking a divorce. Many of the comments written below are made by uneducated and inexperienced individuals who most likely have no idea what marriage is like. When children come into the picture your responsibility and obligations shift to protecting and insuring the happiness of that child/children. A child caught up in a broken marriage will do more damage to the child then a divorce. If the marriage can be salvaged and that is what you want then by all means reconcile the marriage. However, staying married for the sake of children may seem like a good intention but ultimately will cause more mental trauma on your child/children. You are only subjecting the child to you and your spouses broken marriage symptoms if you will, "Stress, depression, rejection, anger, self pity and the list goes on." Ultimately the decision is yours but you need to first think of what's best for your child all around. My primary suggestion would be to see a family counselor. They will be able to make suggestions as to how you need to go about what ever decision you decide to make.


By anonymous at 27,Apr,12 22:04

Its a time to smack a hoe !!!


By anonymous at 04,Sep,12 10:25

she's a bitch, poor girl, but your daughter will be unhappy living with you two in this broken marriage, I'm sure.


By Andy at 27,Nov,12 15:57

Make a strong statmeent about the effects of divorce on children, or on society's attitude toward marriage.For example: The prevalence of divorce in modern society damages our children's emotional development.Today's society has a poor attitude toward marriage because of the prevalence of divorce.Divorce is so common today due to [insert something].


By anonymous at 20,Feb,13 00:43

I have been married just shy of twenty five years and have three children. Each year I say it has to get better but it hasn't and yes I have tried counseling.At first I stayed for the children and then so I didn't lose everything I own. Bottom line I wish I would have left twenty years ago. At least then I stood a chance at happiness.So my advice only try so hard and then make the tough choice. The only thing you have to lose is a chance at a better life. Beleive me I wish i had taken my own advice.


By anonymous at 04,Jun,13 21:35

You can only do so much. Deep down, we all know when to get out. There is a limit to our patience and good will.


By anonymous at 24,Jun,13 18:20

Getting a divorce is bad advice especially when it involves children.This is a great way to ruin your life and hurt the child.It's always essy for people to give thier opinion


By anonymous at 24,Dec,13 12:21

Why not just get your own Jen? If wifey still gives a darn might bring her back to reality. Otherwise, a little checking will find if things are more with your wife and Jen than what she is admiting to. Why not start including her more into your life with your wife. Ask her to join you both for dinners and other activities you reserve for your wife. If it is what you thing it is then after you finally grow a set and get rid of her at least your adopted child will have 2 mothers.


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