LIFE SUCKS

My Life

I joined the army, married my long time girlfriend (who also joined the army) and thought things were going great. I noticed while she was away on a two month course that our funds were draining extremely fast, as in 1400 in 1 month, while two of those weeks she was in the field (she is very good with money) and that it was usually in twos (two movie tickets, two dinners etc.) I confronted her with that but she said I was being a jerk and got mad at me. I let it go and when she returned she treated me like garbage, yelling at me for folding clothes wrong, not washing dishes the way she would have washed them (although she didn't) and that she did not like the way I made the bed (although again, she never made it). After several months of fighting and telling her to admit what happened (I knew what happened as I heard his voice one weekend when whe was at a B&B, one that I found for her btw) she finally told me she had cheated on me. She said it was no big deal and didn't mean anything, however after reading her texts and emails (at her suggestion) I found that not only had she tried to make plans with him in the future but he told her to stuf it, he was just using her for sex. Now I have to live with the fact that I am her second choice and she would have left me had he asked her too, I try to divorce her but she threatens to harm herself or put me through a long, painful divorce. I am super stuck!