Present: I am 25, married, with a baby on the way, have a beautiful, loving wife, a house, a car, an education, a business, tonnes of amazing friends, a family who loves me and what would seem to be, not a care in the world.
I know what you must be thinking; what is my problem? The truth is, I don't have any, per se, other than that my wife is battling severe depression. She has attempted suicide twice, and doesn't get out of bed. This illness has consumed her. I live in a constant state of worry for her yet nothing I do has any affect. She is in therapy and on medication(a struggle finding the proper dosage, but pregnancy hormones are a bitch), but is getting worse. I would never leave her, I love her with all my heart. I am worried my child will inherit this disease. I am running out of patience.
Depression is a miserable heartless bitch.
Somebody out there please tell me there is a light at the end of her tunnel. | |
talk to her try to find why is she deprresed does she know why shes deppresed ?
again if its this bad she might need to take drugs but do all you can to solve it without them
try to help her do fun stuff and talk talk talk
Often keeping busy can help. If her doctor or psychiatrist contraindicates any of these suggestions then you should obviously ignore this... BUT, consider the following:
1. Find activities that are incremental and absorbing. Decorating a nursery is big. How about reading books? Some couples buy two copies of baby and expecting books then try to 'race' each other through them. Try discussing it too.
2. Buy her a camera. Some people like documenting their days/times/depressions. Ask her to show you the pictures. Don't force it, but it can be helpful.
3. Don't wallow in the depression. Don't let it be present in every conversation, etc. Think of the positive and the fun. Don't acknowledge it or treat it as a taint over every activity. Cook dinner together or do a chore together and don't acknowledge a 'down' comment, except by making a positive comment. Don't let her think you're not listening, but don't let the mood go her direction. Some people can be baited out of depression.
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