Love your wife, but never love something so much you can't let it go. That is the lesson I learned.
I was married for 18 Years. I loved my wife to an obsession. But I could not see that she was lazy. "Love is Blind". and in my case (myself)...Stupid.
I always thought of taking care of her was like taking care of a child.
Advice: Guys if you are in a relationship like that, get out of it. If you are in a relationship where the wife lets you make all the decisions, look for another girl. It is better to have a strong woman, who you can make decisions with, as a partner; than a beautiful peice of meat that sits around doing nothing, and just letting you go through life's difficult paths alone. It's like having another kid around the house.
After she turned 40, one day she said,"I can not love you has a husband anymore, only as a friend. I do not want to be married to you any more." I was in shock. She did not want a marriage counselor. So I told her to get a lawyer and lets get it over.
To tell you how lazy she is, she didn't get a lawyer. So Stupid-Me, I got the lawyer.
My Lawyer said sell the house. But Stupid-Me - "the Obsessed one" thought the wife could not survive on her own, and she had my two kids. Plus, if I give her everything I she might come back. (Don't ask me why I did that) As Child Support I pay the mortgage, and the equity loan I took out years ago.
The Bitch Remarried a year after the divorce, and she married a BUM. Now that bastard lives in my house with the Lazy Bitch, and with my kids. I am paying a fucking mortgage for another year and a half, until my daughter graduates from highschool. When the child support ends, she just has to wait until the house forcloses and Bitch and the Bum can buy the house from the bank. I fucked myself.