I am 30 with three children (8,7,&4) and a husband of 10 years. Life can not let us get ahead in any aspect. Both of us work out of the home and I go to school online while watching the kids at home. So the home life I cant complain about. It just seems that the bills all come at once. We recently moved back home to the midwest and could not get jobs for almost 6 months. Bills were adding up and no money coming in, sucks. Finally my husband lands a good job. I get a part time job serving at a crappy restaurant. My sister kicked us out onto the streets shortly after Christmas, even though we were paying our share of the rent and bills. I supplied all food into the house thru my food stamps. So there we are middle of winter no place to live. I finally found an apt we can afford for super cheap and it actually met all requirements for us. We could see the light at the end of the tunnel...things looked good. Then BOOM hours get cut at both jobs. Barely able to afford anything once again. We can feed ourselves with food stamps, but cant provide anything else. That only lasted about 2 weeks of little money coming in, we had used all of our savings again to try to keep caught up on bills. Seeing the light again; not for long. Our only vechile breaks down. Another time in our lives we have to barrow money to stay afloat. So 500 dollars later we are driving again. Working extra hours to get the extra money doing good again. BOOM!! All of our bill collectors are calling and needing money to avoid court. No money for necessities, yet we need to get these people off our backs. I am so fed up of being able to see the light and someone or something steping in the way. We are good people who do good things for ourselves and others, why can't we just survive. I don't know how much more of this fucking shit I can take. I avoid phone calls and social outings because it involves money all the time. FUCK THIS LIFE. All I want is to sleep thru the night and not have to worry if my kids have a roof over their heads tomorrow. I know there are many otheres out there like us. I know we are not alone. But for all of those that can not say it: THIS WORLD MAKES OUR LIVES SUCK BIG TIME!!!! PEACE | |
My parents have come close to being homeless. My dad lost his job and he literally went from job to job to job for about 2 to 4 years. My mother was very depressed because she was the only one providing. Her check was only around $500 so you can only imagine how things were paid with a family of FOUR. They have tried to applied for food stamps but weren’t qualified. We ended up getting fed by the church a couple of times. Like you, our bills were very quick. Even a sheriff knocked on our door for some kind of court papers because of bills. That REALLY upset me. the phone would ring from bill collectors all the time and even though I was just a kid, stuff like that bothers me because you wonder what level of stresses are my parents really going through. The lights and water bills would shut off all the time and we’ve survived off of burger king and dominos pizza for a while, I remember that!
I'm 23 years old and for as long as i can remember, my parents have ALWAYS been this way, but somehow they live happy lives are very strong. I advise you to do the same, just keep going because that’s all you can do. If my parents can survive it this long, YOU surely can. They are much better now, but my mom’s job has been cut by one day on her hours. Everyday that she goes to work, she fears that they may knock on her office door and tell her she’ll be laid off because MANY have at where she works. So we’re all just crossing our fingers everyday.
I know the person before me was harsh, but in a way he or she does a have a point. SORT OF. It is not a bad idea at all to WAIT on having children if you aren’t really prepared financially. I believe each couple should have at least 10,000 to 20,000 dollars in the bank because kids are VERY expensive. They are extra BIG bills that never go away, lol. But on the other hand, life is full of surprises, both good and bad and sometimes it doesn’t necessarily matter when the children are born. Both parents could be college graduates, have successful job but then lose them due to recession. So in a way, kids aren’t always the problem or the reason why things are MORE difficult.
Just understand that you can only do what you can and that these things aren’t your fault. There are SO many million people who are going through the same trials as you are, so you are NOT alone. If you can, keep doing your online college classes, whether it is one at time or taking off for a while to keep the bills paid and then coming back. Try to save energy like turning off lights you don’t use or don’t leave them on when you’re away from home, turn the TV off if you aren’t watching. Cancel subscriptions for example, Netflix or Magazines etc.
When it comes to sharing your story or seeking advise, THIS site is not the right place. If it was, there would be administrators and modifiers monitoring this site and taking it seriously and approving comments but right now, ANY kind of people just come on here and will say anything negative, it’s amazing. You should go to Places like Yahoo Answers or another Support Forum where people are actually more helpful instead of judging you, calling you names and making you feel bad then you already are. for the past few months, there have been users on here who have just been really ugly to others.
I don’t know if you believe in God or not, but I WILL be sure to pray for you and ask God to show you a different direction, okay? Be strong and stick close to your husband. J
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