16 years old. Yea yea you guys probably won't take me seriously. Seriously, who takes a teenager seriously. Yea i used seriously 3 now 4 times, get over it. I grew up in a terrible emotionally-abusive family. My mom and dad are together but in this house or condo/apt that i grew up in, there was little love. Lots of fighting and assumptations and accusations. My mom and dad never married for love. They knew each other for 3-6 months and got married because 1) my dad needed to settle down and 2) my mom needed a way to stay in the us to get her citizenship since she came from europe or asia or something. So it sucks seeing them with no love for each other. You know how sometimes kids see their parents being playful with little kisses with each other and the kid would say ewwwwwww. there was none of that here. My dad is the last man youd expect to be romantic. THey dont celebrate their anniversaries and everytime me , my mom, my dad, and my 13 year old sister are in the same room together its awkard. we're all quiet or we're all shouting and fighting. Honestly, my younger sister is a huge problem/burden in this house. Im tired of her. She's always talking shit\gossiping about others and when someone else does it back she doesn't like it and starts breaking down. She's territorial. Several occasions, constantly my dad and i would get icecream from the freezer to eat and when my sister goes eat it later on she gets pissed because someone touched it. it makes me soooo mad that i want to hurt her and hit her not only because of that inccident but many many others. im not kidding. she always thinks she's right and she thinks she can never do wrong. She treats me like dirt. I'm like cinderella and she's the stepsister. I hate her so much. Me and her are constantly fighting and im so sick of it. Yes i have anger isssues, anxiety, and mild depresssion . My mom has depresssion every once in a while. My dad is just blunt. My sister i think is anorexic. She never eats and it concerns me. I hate being in a dsyfunctional family. but hey nobody's perfect. cliche huh. the story isnt over but thats all im gonna say. | |
I would suggest that, if you can, try to find a way to reach out to your sister and befriend her, little by little, by doing nice things for her, saying encouraging things to her, ignoring her when she is being negative or nasty. Try to get her to open up with her feelings to you. If you are suffering in the home environment, you can be sure that she is affected by it to. If you can understand that her behavior may stem from her own unhappiness, it may make it easier for you to try and become allies instead of enemies. She might surprise you and become a good friend, if you continue to react with unconditional love and support toward her, even when she acts out.
If you think it might do any good, sit down with each of your parents (or both of them at the same time, if you think that is workable) and have a heart-to-heart talk with them about how their arguing affects you and your sister. You might recommend that, if they want to stay together, they see a marriage counselor to help them work through their problems so that they can be happier and able to provide a more stable home environment for you two to live in. Try not to blame but be specific about what bothers you. Demonstrate that your goal is for the family to live in more peace and harmony together. Bring up positive things that you do like about each parent and the family, activities that you'd like the family to do together, ways that you'd like to see your home change.
Anxiety and depression can be helped with prescription medication. Both mental illnesses run rampant on my father's side of the family, including me and my daughter. The medication corrects the chemical imbalance in the brain and makes a world of difference. Talk to your mom about this and ask to see a/your doctor if you haven't already.
If you think your sister has an eating disorder, please read more about it and talk with your parents about it. She needs help. If your parents don't take an active role in helping her, perhaps you could talk to a trusted teacher or guidance counselor about the problem. People can get very ill and die from anorexia, even after they get over the illness, if they were sick for a long time, causing their body serious damage.
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