I'm 25 years old. I haven't had a boyfriend or even a boy who cared about me in 5 years. I don't even have any friends. I ask people to hang out but they always have an excuse why they can't and then they put on Facebook that they are bored and does anyone want to do something. People at work complain about having to work with me too. I'm a really nice, sweet, careing person, but people don't like me. I spend every day of my life at work or at home on the couch. I live alone because (of course) no one wants to live with me. I eat dinner alone, celebrate holidays and birthdays alone, take vacations alone, I even ring in the new year alone on my couch. I have 2 sisters. My younger sister has too many friends then she knows what to do with. She never has a free minute because she is always with her friends. My older sister has a lot of friends too but she also has the sweetest most careing husband. They just had their first baby. They have this perfect little life and I have my couch to sit on. My parents say they don't have a favorite child but it's obvious that I'm at the bottom of the list even though they are the closest things to friends I have. My mom seems irritated when I call her because I don't have something I need to talk to her about. I just call because most days if I don't talk to her I won't end up saying a word all day becuase I have no one else to talk to. She even said the other day that she would rather my older sister live right down the street and I can go live in her house 2 hours away because she would rather be closer to her. I'm so lonely and I want to find a boyfriend so I have at least one person who cares about me, but my mom always tells me that I need to lose weight if I ever want to get a guy which means that my personality and who I am on the inside isn't enough for someone to love me. My looks would be the only thing someone would want and since I'm fat, no one would want me, but I'm only fat because I have nothing else to do but sit on the couch and eat. I desperately want a family of my own but I know I will never get that chance. No one would ever want to marry me or have a baby with me. I'm going to be alone on my couch for the rest of my life. God forbid it be a long one. Although I don't think even God cares about me... | |
Im pretty and thin but I dont have friends :( and guys only want to be my bf not just friends and I dont want a bf for now...
at least u live alone and independent...
Ill be your friend :) I want a female friend :(
And by the way I would'nt mind being your friend too! :-)
You are suffering from "Middle-Child-Itis". You're too busy comparing yourself to your siblings, and wallowing in self-pity to see the real problem: You're depressed. I'm a member of that club as well. The only person who is going to pull you off that couch is yourself. Trust me, I started reading your post and thought you were talking about me! And listen, you're parents don't have a favorite. It may seem that way- but they love you just as much as your sisters. What you need is a good shot of SELF-ESTEEM! You're heavy- just like me by the way, and it's making you down on yourself. We are our own worst critic. Look in the mirror- and tell yourself- no CONVINCE yourself, that you are worthy! You are worthy of feeling happy and YOU are going to do something about it! If you don't like exercising alone, join something more social like Weight Watchers. Go for a walk. Start off slow, and work your way up to a jog. Losing weight, unless you can afford plastic surgery, is a slow and painful process. That's why it's so much easier, hating ourselves, and eating Ben Jerry's (Chocolate mmmmmmm) ICE CREAM!!! But sweetie, if you put your mind to it- you can accomplish anything- So, get off the pity party couch and do something about it!
And I'll do the same-
Cursed
'men are visual creature, we have to be attracted to you first before we'll ever try to get to know your personality inside'
so fucken true.
Also notice the number if I's in similar posts...
The real solution is to forget the I and focus on something beyond yourself
Finx a higher cause and work for it. You will get over your current problem
Personality, interest, sex, wavelength, education, confidence, etc. All of these play a part too. My first girlfriend was very fat. We were students and she was studying to be a lawyer. She was the first woman who I fell in love and had sex with. I think it does something to my preference for women later on in life. Lets make it clear I'm physically fit, 174cm, makes decent money (i am a senior manager in the office). Had a string of girlfriends in the past. So don't you for a minute think only losers would be attracted to you as well.
you need to put yourself out there to make more friends. That is the only way you can find your dream man. I'm not trying to be rude here, it is like you have a product to sell but if you don't promote it with get more eyeballs how can you expect sales?. You need to create the opportunity to find him. It is no difference from people looking for job. You have some you unique skill set but you would need time to find the employer that are looking for them. Most companies may not need them but there may be a few companies willing to pay top dollars for them.
For instance, instead of being a couch potato, force yourself out of the house for early morning walks or jogs. Then you will have something to talk about with your family and MAYBE meet people and MAYBE, JUST MAYBE you will connect and start having friends. As for the love thing... don't concern yourself with this issue right now, just focus on socializing and sooner or later you will meet guys you like, but remember even though your brother-in-law seems perfect, there is no such thing as prince charming (it's only a fairy tale)... we are only human.
As i said, focus on socializing and meeting and interacting with people, just gather some courage and throw yourself out there, I mean come on!!! You only get one life... what's the point in hiding in your home if your not gonna live it??? It's like your passing time till you die... waste...
AND GOD DAMN IT IF I READ ONE MORE COMMENT ABOUT MERCY'S QUEEN I'LL... just get a little pissed... -.-
It's getting kinda boring, every single post he has to talk about midgets and getting drunk and fucking midgets and gay midgets ... GOD DAMN IT WTF IS IT WITH YOU AND MIDGETS....
New Comment